David Jones Family Law Attorney

David Jones

25 years experience in Kitsap County

David Jones began practicing family law, including divorce and child custody cases in Kitsap County 25 years ago. In fact, all aspects of family law form the focus of his practice. For the last 16 years, he has worked exclusively in family law in Port Orchard. If you fear your family law case will go to trial, choose David Jones and his extensive trial experience and in-depth knowledge of how best to tailor his argument to the individual judges in the county. 

He also serves as a judge pro tem for the Kitsap County Superior Court. In this role, he puts his years of experience serving as a commissioner for settlement conferences to assist people to settle their issues.

David Jones helps people work out their differences and get on with their lives

Although David is in front of a judge an average of three days a week, in more than 90% of his cases, he helps people work out their differences and get on with their lives. He sees each case as unique and works to craft agreements that fit each distinctive situation. Whether it is necessary to litigate the case or possible to negotiate a settlement, David Jones will stand with you. He is outstanding in educating his clients on the law and coaching them through crises.  As a result, he assists you in making reasoned decisions in difficult times.

He has worked on some of the most difficult child custody issues in the county, including several trials on relocation of children. David’s own two children form a touchstone when helping people through the child custody process.

David is an active member of the Port Orchard community. He is a member of the South Kitsap Rotary and was named Rotarian of the Year in 2013-2014, as well.

David is well-regarded in the legal community. He was voted best attorney in South Kitsap in 2011 and was runner-up in 2012. He currently assists other attorneys to gain family law knowledge by teaching continuing legal education seminars in Kitsap County.

Bar Admissions

Washington, 1993
U.S. District Court Western District of Washington

Education

University of Idaho College of Law, Moscow, Idaho
J.D. – 1991
Indiana University, Bloomington, Indiana
B.A. – 1987
Major: Political Science

Honors and Awards

Voted Best Attorney in South Kitsap, 2011 

Past Employment Positions

Law Offices of David W. Jones, Solo Practitioner, 1993 – 2001

Child Custody Attorneys

child custody attorneysChild custody legal team is here when you need it.

Our experienced child custody attorneys stand ready and equipped to provide whatever help you need through the stressful and emotional process of creating and enforcing parenting plans. We know that nothing about separation and divorce is more heart-wrenching and stressful than caring for your children. As a result of the experience our custody team shares, we are equipped to handle your toughest problems.   Our services include:

  • Strong child custody plans (parenting plan) that work for you and your children
  • Acting expeditiously in custody emergencies
  • Negotiated agreements that avoid court fights
  • Successful representation in high conflict and complex cases
  • Custody limitations due to drug, alcohol, and sexual abuse
  • Custody limitations due to domestic violence charges
  • Representation for grandparents

No firm is better equipped to handle emergencies

Emergencies plague high conflict child custody situations, and we can handle any emergency situation seamlessly. Call GSJones partner John Groseclose after business hours if you have an emergency at 253-381-6395. Even if your child custody lawyer is on vacation or home ill when you need quick action, you don’t need to stress. One of our other lawyers has instant access to your file and is fully qualified to take quick action.

Experienced Port Orchard child custody attorneys offer extensive expertise

Family Law Attorneys
John Groseclose, Partner, also serves as a guardian ad litem, representing the interests of children.

David Jones, Managing Partner, has 25 years of family law experience in Kitsap County.

Larry Lofgren, has 25 years experience and can meet with you at both our main Port Orchard office and the Bainbridge Island location.

 

Call or message us today for a consultation

Based in Port Orchard, WA with a location on Bainbridge Island, GSJones Law Group, P.S., represents Kitsap County residents as well as clients from throughout surrounding counties and communities, including Gig Harbor, Bremerton, Silverdale, Seabeck, Belfair, Banner, Olalla, Poulsbo,  Bethel, Navy Yard City, Fernwood, Purdy, Bainbridge Island, Vashon Island and surrounding areas in Mason County, and Jefferson County.

books on divorce

Books on divorce

A good divorce lawyer is essential; good books on divorce are vital

Divorce is tough. Our five divorce attorneys know that well. Nothing is more important than family and friends that can listen and offer practical support. On the other hand, there are many aspects of divorce where specific expertise can help. At GSJones Law Group we have five divorce lawyers who guide you steadily and empathetically through the legal process. We are not, however, child development experts. Or couples counselors, although we often can do a lot to help you and your spouse separate with less rancor.

Here are a few books on divorce that others who have gone through divorce found helpful.

Your emotions

You can choose from a vast number of books to help you deal with your emotions, both old and new. Here are a few to get you started.

Making the decision to divorce

Let’s start with a book to help you decide whether or not to divorce, Too Good to Leave to Bad to Stay, A Step-by-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship, Mira Kirshenbaum. Use the 36 diagnostic questions to help you make the fateful decision. The author is the clinical director of Chestnut Hill Institute, a psychotherapy clinic that uses the latest research.

Another research-based book, What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal, John Gottman and Nan Silver, lays out the elements of lasting love and shows you how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship. It also provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.

Books on divorce

In print for 35 years, you may want to start with this classic in its 35th-anniversary edition: Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti, and Virginia Satir. It provides a 19-step process for rebuilding your life after divorce. From amazon.com: “…this book offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants self-help!”

The aptly named Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Abigail Trafford,  helps you understand your experiences as you weather the turmoil. The latest edition contains the most up-to-date research on the personal and economic effects of divorce. The new edition also adds a section on becoming single again in the age of the Internet.

Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a catalyst for an extraordinary life, Debbie Ford, offers Seven Spiritual Laws: acceptance, surrender, divine guidance, responsibility, choice, forgiveness and creation. Based in Jungian psychology, you may find this book most helpful if you use a 12-step program or are familiar with A Course in Miracles.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love, Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, & Melba Colgrove, has stood the test of time. It provides comfort and recommendations in an easy-to-read format.

Books on domestic violence and other high conflict divorces

Lundy Bancroft, who counsels abusive men, offers insight into the thinking and emotions of abusers in Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling MenHe also gives advice on how to safely escape from abusive relationships.

Personal accounts of divorce

Hollywood screenwriter Chris Easterly’s account of his divorce in Falling Forward: A Man’s Memoir of Divorce explores his emotional journey from discovering his wife’s affair to eventual healing. It helps affirm the fact that you will survive.

Another professional writer offers a women’s account in Split: A Memoir of Divorce by Suzanne Finnamore. Goodreads: “Prescriptive yet full of pragmatic advice, insight and black humor, Split is a finely wrought tourniquet for a broken union and its attendant trauma.”

Your children and divorce

Parents

The Co-Parents’ Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young AdultsKaren Bonnell, takes a how-to approach to guiding you and your ex-spouse through the challenges of co-parenting.

If co-parenting isn’t working, check out Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex- A Hands-on, Practical Guide to Communicating with a Difficult Ex-Spouse, Julie Ross, M.A., & Julie Corcoran. It offers easy-to-use communication techniques for dealing with difficult exes in parenting.

When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse, Lundy Bancroft, provides advice for abused parents on protecting their children, as well as helping them heal and feel good about themselves. In addition, it provides tips about custody. 

Young children

It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce, Vicki Lansky, is designed for children who have both parents active in their lives. In addition to a read aloud story, it also offers advice to parents on being a successful co-parent.

Two Homes, Claire Masurel is for very young children. Here’s a sample: “At Mommy’s house, Alex has a soft chair. At Daddy’s house, Alex has a rocking chair. In each home, Alex also has a special bedroom and lots of friends to play with.”

On the same topic as Two Homes for a slightly older child, Standing on My Own Two Feet: A Child’s Affirmation of Love in the Midst of Divorce, Tamara Schmitz

By the estimable Fred Rogers Let’s Talk About It: Divorce (Mr. Rogers) helps children through the third grade identify and talk about their feelings.

Tweens

It’s Not the End of the World by Judy Blume – a classic yet still relevant novel that follows 11-year-old Karen as her parents’ divorce.

Your spirits

Sixteenth on amazon.com’s list of most popular books on divorce is Revelations of Divine Love by the 14th-century Christian mystic Julian of NorwichWhat could an old hermit know about going through a divorce? Why would she speak to the hearts of people going through one of the saddest, toughest periods of their lives? Well, it takes spiritual grounding to be strong and resilient. And nothing demands strength and resiliency like divorce.

Maybe 600-year-old Christian mysticism isn’t your cup of tea. How about modern Buddhist lovingkindness meditation? One of the foremost American Buddhist teachers, Sharon Salzberg, recently released a book, called Real Love. Real Love is a creative toolkit of mindfulness exercises and meditation techniques that help you to truly engage with your present experience and create deeper love relationships with yourself, friends and family, and with life itself.

Even older than Julian of Norwich is the Sufi poet Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī. His 800th birth anniversary was celebrated all over the world. While not a book on divorce, love is a frequent topic of his religious poetry. The Essential Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks, is a great way to start. It is full of both the ecstasy and the agony of human and spiritual love. Or perhaps, you want to steer away from love and concentrate on your own inner life. Rumi’s Little Book of Life might be just what you need.

Most Christian denominations have daily devotion guides. If you have not been using one, now might be a good time to start. Your pastor will be happy to help you find the right one.

If you’re looking for a good divorce lawyer in Port Orchard and Kitsap County, check out our Divorce and Family Law Attorney page.